How many men do you know who are ruining their lives because of a woman?
Women have a tendency to meet a guy and then focus their entire lives on him.
If you actually want to talk to someone (otherwise known as using the site), you have to cough up 30 dollars a month.
A few sites would let you send messages for free, but put tight limits on how many you could send.
Loving and dating a married man can be extremely painful and seldom works out well.