I, too, am guilty of sitting with friends (or hey, even people-watching by myself) and seeing a couple go by with one very attractive partner and one average or "below-average" partner while thinking, As someone who genuinely strives to be pro-heathy body image and socially conscious, I realize that I'm contributing to a huge problem in a way that I never realized.
We went to the museum's "adult night" -- the theme this time was "the science of love." It was fun. But when I get in the car, alone, THAT's when the real me, the confident, flamboyant, creative, funny me comes right out.
I find my voice is too high and I'm too "nice" and not creative/funny enough in these first date situations.
It's always something along the lines of, "I guess I am not hot enough/fit enough/fun enough/smart enough" for this person's attention.
Even when the situation doesn't apply to ourselves, we apply the method of thinking that people are grouped into leagues.
But it wouldn't have mattered with this girl anyway, she's just way out of my league. My question is, is going on these dates with a "9" when you're a "5" on your best day good or bad? You never know what could happen (but usually you do, and it's "nothing") 2. These experiences can be I've done it before and will do it again.